‘Tell me,’ she questioned me, ‘how do you know that ‘us’ would work?
‘What makes you believe that we wouldn’t end up like them. Like those couples who physically live under one roof, but in their minds, they are many miles away from each other. Those who sit across each other in the fanciest of restaurants and have nothing to talk about. And who in spite of being in the most romantic of settings end up spending the evening looking into their empty glasses. Fiddling with the remaining food on their plates.’
‘Do you know why?’ she asked again.
‘Because they have nothing in common. Professionally or personally. No interest either. They have nothing to bind their lives together. Nothing to build their relationship around. Neither thoughts nor actions.’
She paused for a moment and sighed before saying, ‘Just like you and I don’t have.’
‘Then tell me, wouldn’t our life become a drag? A burden that we must carry for the rest of our lives. A curse that we would have inflicted upon ourselves. A poison drank from our own hands knowing what it can do to us.’
After a pause of a moment or two, she looked me into my eyes and asked again, ‘Tell me. How do you know then, that ‘us’ would work?’
How do I know that? I muttered under my breath.
Several moments passed before I started speaking.
‘There is no logical answer to it,’ I replied. ‘No mathematical relationship that could tell with certainty why should ‘us’ work. There is no past data that once plotted on the graph and extrapolated should give the reason of ‘us’ working out. There is neither ‘method’ nor ‘magic’ available in this world that can tell why two different people with their different identities, different goals, when put together under the same roof, should work.’
‘No. It doesn’t work like that.’
‘A relationship works because two people, however different, decide to have a faith in themselves. Faith in this relationship. Faith in this idea of two people who despite being so different can live together. Can stay together despite of everything going against them. Even when they have their backs against the walls, their hopes lost in the wildest of storms, instead of running away, they hold their hands together and face every challenge, every calamity face on.’
‘They do it not because they knew that in advance. They do it because they have faith.’
‘And it’s not an exact science. Not a thing that can be quantified. It has no causal relationship that you can map on a chart. Nor any empirical data that you can look into it to tell the probability that we would work. These laws of certainty do not work in such matters.’
‘It’s all about the trust that you sow within yourself and that person. The trust no so different than that of a farmer who lays his trust on a rain months in the future to nourish its crop. And this is the key to a successful relationship.’
‘And then, once you put this faith in your heart and walk hands in hands into the future, you work on this relationship. Come what may. You build it from scratch. Giving your own colors to this bond. You make it happen, despite the contrary circumstances. Sometimes, it would not be easy. It will not always be a walk on the bed of roses. There will be wild storms and wild rains. Sunny days will be rare. But that’s how the best of the relationships are made.Against the current. Despite the circumstances.’
By facing the challenges. By enduring the obstacles.
‘And that’s what I feel when I look at you — this faith real and living inside me. Its roots already deep within my soul. Spread into my sub-consciousness. I don’t know whether we would work in the way you mean. But I know that I can stand by you throughout my life to work towards making ‘us’ work.’